SIBLING RIVALS

Want your children to grow up as friends?
Try these tips from Parentlineplus.org.uk.

AGE DIFFERENCES mean that siblings will be at different stages of learning. So introduce activity that all age groups can participate in. Encourage older siblings to help the younger ones with an activity, to make older children feel more important.

DON'T RUSH to stop an argument - children sorting out their differences themselves can be a valuable lesson.

DON'T TAKE SIDES. It will make them think you have a favourite.

PRAISE them when they are getting along. Only noticing when they are misbehaving will make them think this is the best way to get your attention.

TEACH them how to cooperate, such as taking turns to play with a particular toy and then swapping.

REMIND children to talk through problems. If things get too heated, make sure they know how to ask an adult to help resolve the conflict.

ENCOURAGE them to think of others. Ask them how they think their brother or sister is feeling and what they would want if they were in their position, helping them to empathise.

REMAIN CALM. It will remind them that it is not such a big deal and will help them to listen to you.